#notpregnantjustfat

We all know how the old sayings go, 'Patience is a virtue' or 'Good things come to those who wait.' Well I can tell you now, the people who say them things are talking about waiting for something stupid like a kettle to boil (it won't if you watch it apparently), or a bus to come (don't worry two will be along at once...very shortly). They weren't, or aren't talking about waiting to conceive, or if they are, it should be added to the list of bullshit things people say to those struggling with infertility that should afford us infertiles the right to slap them across the face without consequence. I have discovered over the past couple of years, that trying to conceive is a lot of waiting. Waiting to ovulate, waiting for lines to appear (or not) on tests, waiting for periods to come (unfortunately they're always right on time!), waiting for doctors appointments, waiting for test results, waiting, waiting, waiting.  I currently find myself in ye...

This week someone I know suffered a miscarriage. It is horrible and unfortunately we are not that close, so I don't feel like I can be there for her in the way I would like to be. If I could be there for her I would tell her that she doesn't have to be level headed like she is being, that just because she sensibly says  'It just wasn't meant to be this time' doesn't mean than she shouldn't feel the pain. I would also tell her that the fact that this is her first miscarriage after two beautiful, healthy babies doesn't make any difference, she is still ALLOWED to feel the hurt.  I wouldn't tell her that she will be fine if she just gives it a bit of time, or that it is very common, or that she wasn't that far gone (as if that makes a difference), or that she will be pregnant again in no time. I would tell her that I am there for her, however she feels and she can talk to me anytime she needs me, or if she wants space that is fine too. I would...

Good afternoon everyone and HAPPY NEW YEAR! Sorry I know I'm a bit late on that, but as you will be aware I have been very quiet on here for a while.  My last update was just after our first appointment at the private fertility clinic and before my gynae appointment about suspected endometriosis. I'll start at the fertility clinic. We drove the hour and a half up there and were seen very quickly after arriving (no NHS waiting lists here). The Doctor brought us into his very nice office and went through the results of both of our tests. Both were very positive and thus he informed us we were in the 'unexplained infertility' category. He went through A LOT of forms and told us to take them home and read them (back to time is money people). He also very quickly mentioned my risk of OHSS due to my results, although if I hadn't done my own research prior to the appointment, I fear this may have gone over my head and I definitely wouldn't be aware of what a real r...